Any advice for a new African Grey owner?

I recently adopted my uncle's African Grey, BaeBae. My uncle has lung cancer and can't take care of him any longer. I'm a huge animal person, so I'm loving having this new guy around! I've never had a bird though... so I'm hoping someone on here could give me a few tips.





I think because of the change he's a little stressed. He's plucked out a bunch of feathers. I read that if you give them showers it helps. I gave him one yesterday, which he seemed to enjoy, but he's still pulcking. Anyone know of a way to help him out?Any advice for a new African Grey owner?
It is wonderful that you are caring for him. Right now he is plucking to relieve the stress he feels about losing his companion/home, and moving to a new one.





Just show him that he can trust you - clean food and water daily, clean cage, toys to play with and most of all your companionship. Just sitting in the same room and talking to him can help relieve some of it. My Greys and I enjoy watching Food Network together.





There are great books and websites that can offer more advice. They are my Parrot Bibles.Any advice for a new African Grey owner?
I didn't get to respond in time - I have a African grey: You need to feed him fruits and veggies - DAILY. Frozen veggies are fine - just heat up. Oatmeal, grains, whole grain sugar free cereal - just remember that seeds should be smallest part of his diet

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he is plucking his feathers out of stress and bieng bored they need a lot of attention they are very people oriented and alot like small children


if he keeps plucking his feathers take him to a vet who is familiar with birds because he will pluck all of them out and look like a chicken.

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He probable is very stressed out and sad. African Greys are very sensitive and he is probable missing your uncle. Make sure he has lots of toys to keep him busy and active. Baths should help if his skin is dry. Just show him lots of love and attention and you will be rewarded. It may take some time but it is so worth it. Also you can take him to the vet and have him examined, sometime when they pick it is because they are sick, they can also give him a shot that lasts a month and it relaxes them and they won't pick. Good luck! They are great!
I think all the above is right! My parrot was plucking her feathers a while back.......mostly her wing feathers, I took to her to an avarian vet, she had swollowed a little piece of metal, I am not saying that is the case with your bird, but if the plucking persists I would have him checked out by a vet, just in case.


One typ the vet gave me...let the bird be near when you are having your meals. let it him have some titbits from you while you are eating, this is supposed to make them feel more part of the family. Good luck
I am glad to know that your Uncle's companion is getting a great home. The stress will eventually even out. The bird is mourning the loss of his friend, Toys are always needed for birds. I like to buy baby toys, some of the teething things are great for birds to chew on. I also have the ';chains'; hanging from the top of my conure's cage, and he loves to play with them. Good luck with your new friend. Sounds like BaeBae will have a great place to live.
you just have to try help minimilise the stress. Does your uncle have anything that he use to give to the bird like a blanket or a specific toy? your bird will de-stress if he has familiar things and smells around him. Make sure that the bird is in a comfortable place away from loud noises such as washing machines etc. and away from other pets, sunlight, direct heat and away from other people. This will help him settle in and feel more secure in his new environment. It may take a few days for him to stop plucking at himself, ifit carries on for over a week more then i would take him to the vets and get it checked out as it could be self harm. Just make sure that everything is as much the same as it can be. hopes this helps!
hi my advise is that he is stressing because he has had to leave his owner so i would spend as much time as i can with him has he got toys in there with him and does he come out of his cage if not i would get him out and buy some toys for him but spend time with him so he can trust you once he knows you he will be fine just give him time hope this helps and good luck from tracie

Advice on new Shocks / Struts for my firebird / trans am?

Typically I just get whatever is cheapest. But for this I want to get a better product.





What shocks or struts are good? What brands? On ebay I see Bilstein and Gabriel brands.





What is monotube design vs twin tube design?





Do I also need to replace the mounts? What about Sway links?Advice on new Shocks / Struts for my firebird / trans am?
Now when it comes to shocks buy a brand name such as Bilstein, KYB, Koni or any other performance brand if u plan to keep your car a long time. Please don't go for the gabriels since on autozone sells then and I have no idea how well they work. Had a friend once use them and was very dissatisfied with them.

chemical face peel

What would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?

I am sure he would love to receive public opinions and correct him self to be an effective, respectable , good, powerful President , who can bring back our lost images and respect all over the world too.





Advice to diffuse financial crisis, improvement employment market, prevent fraud, bring back troops, stop small wars , get medical aid and whatever he promised to us .





HE IS A GOOD GUY - HE BRINGS HOPE FOR NEW LIFE. TO DAY.





GOOD LUCKWhat would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?
I would tell him to give more finances to state education. Then people would be able to form a proper question and possibly a sentence or two.





I would tell him to start the draft back up. I mean America has 144,128,690 Americans that are able to serve and only 1,500,000 Americans with enough balls to serve our country and ensure the freedom and democracy that the country stands for.What would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?
I would advise him to admit that he's in over his head, and a recycling of the Clinton Administration in conjunction with a DEMOCRAT controlled legislature is the last thing this nation needs.





After that he should step down and call upon the country to support an experienced leader in a White House with a bipartisan makeup, and ask someone like Newt Gingrich to step in as President with Biden as VP.





That's the kind of compromise that WORKS for this nation. What we will see after mid-January will NOT WORK, and will take us lower and lower until we finally wake up.
Dear mr. President, make sure you rule the country subject to the guidance of God.. No man on earth has the ability to fix this world's problems. Who can make a collective mind change in this country?


No matter how hard you try, if congress opposes you, nothing will happen. Put God and his wisdom first then your abilities will shine.





Good luck Mr. president
he should remember his allies just like Bush did He should visit Poland and remember that Polish people and the Polish goverment helped USA and will try to help USA every time its good to have small allies that can enter places the USA Cannot Poland helped the USA negotiate with China back in Regan administration and Polish mediators can still be useful USA inteligence should coperate with the Polish inteligence as we often posses information that might be usefull for the US
I would suggest to back away from any agenda, the liberals try to bring to the table. Continue with the tax breaks, don't raise any taxes. Don't cut military spending...





Socialisim will only run America... No socialized medicine!!!





Don't screw things up like Clinton did!
he better make a ';Change'; or else he's going to have some pretty mad Americans on his hands. Also continue with the border fence. Hey, they already started and have some sections almost finished. Plus, it's providing jobs for people right now.
I would tell him to do the best thing he can for our Country... And that would be to back down from office. He is a liar and a deceiver. He wasn't even born in America. There is no reason that he should have the power to run a country. End of story.
Spend more federal money on public education if this question is any indication.
Please for Gods sake, do yourself, your family and your Nation a good service and quit now.
Govern from the center, don't cave in to far left or far right extremists.
Admit he is not up to the job and resign
DUCK MUTHA SCRATCHA!
Quit
just do what he said he would

Any advice on a new job, i start tomorrow!?

im so excited! its a dream job and i was just wondering if anyone had some ways to start it out right.Any advice on a new job, i start tomorrow!?
Be friendly - everyone is nervous the first day - it's so awkward! Ask good questions, make eye contact, etc.

Any advice for a new manager?

I am new to management and I am finding it very stressful. I am a smart person and a hardworker, just not used to all of the aspects to management like human resources and conflicts, I was friends with most of the people that I now manage but they respect me just fine. The bigger problem is the people I am now equal to do not respect me- at all. They tell on me if I make a mistake, and I have made a bigger problem, I have confided in a few of them and they betraded me. I feel I have made a mistake by accepting this position but I do not want to quit. Is there any way to fix this situation? I realize that I need to start acting more mature and less like a friend but I do not want to become a ';Stalin'; or anything.


P.S....The job is still getting done better than ever, I am just not used to being a head honcho.Any advice for a new manager?
First thing is relax. It takes time for people to get used to things. If you are producing, then they have no argument. And, be careful about saying anything that shows lack of confidence or frustration to your peers (and definitely those that report to you).





And to add to what chris said, Give credit to your subordinates when due, and be firm but fair when things are not being done as you state.Any advice for a new manager?
Here you go. #1 it's a job you have been hired to do. #2, If the people that hired you for the position didn't think you had what it took to do the job, well you wouldn't be asking this question. 3# Do the job as you are required to do and then some if needed, but use you're delegation skills as a manager and get you team proactively involved by giving them greater responsibility gradually, but don't overwhelm them. 4# Believe in yourself and your abilities. If you don't believe in yourself and lack self-confidience people will pick-up on that and exploit your weaknesses. 5# If you made a mistake, you don't have to broadcast it. Make haste and fix the problem as best as you can. If you need assistance, don't be afraid to ask for help from one of your subordinates that may be able to help you. 6# Don't be too hard on yourself. You weren't born a manager and didn't become one overnight. It will take time getting used to your new responsibilities and role -- Relax. 7# Don't micro manage you're people. Allow you're people to do their jobs, with minimal interference from you. This let's them know that you trust their abilities and that you are comfortable knowing that they are doing their jobs well. 8# Develop relationships that will help you grow, both with subordinates and other managers, I didn't say share every little detail of you're life with them or you're fears etc. That's what friends are for, outside of the job who have no connection whatsoever to you're job. 9# Find a mentor, someone that you'd like to learn from and who you'd think can show you overall how to be a better person (not manager) in the work place, as well as outside of the work place. 10# Last but not least (forgive me Lord, but you should be first on this list) PUT GOD FIRST!!!!!! By putting Him first in your life, no one or nothing can remove you from you're position. When enemies come against you, He will thwart their fiery darts and protect you. Cast all you're cares on Him, and you will have VICTORY IN EVERYTHING YOU DO!!! Trust me, this is a formula that works!!!!!
Take your time and do everything to the best of your ability..Once you get a system going then everything will fall into place..When you get some free time start your own personal chart..Once you show everyone that you are the boss and you have to be their friend also as long as the job is done right the first time then they should understand that you are not their enemy..You my have to get rid of some slackers..And don't take to heart on what they say..But listen to what they have to say..Take note but stand firm..
oh you poor thing.





truth.....it is stressful....i'm signed off with stress...


looking for another job or wanting to start up my own business.





i'll keep my fingers crossed for you - if you really like it, stick with it...otherwise, all the stress just isn't really worth it in the end.
Its tough to move up from the ranks. I do not envy you. Dont play favorites, and make sure the work gets done. Give people a pat on the back for doing good work, as you would give them a kick in the but for not doing well. And remember, there is always someone out to get you, from above, below and the sides.
As a manager trainer, this is an issue I see a lot. I think you have a good point in acting more mature. My suggestion for you would be to keep doing your best. If you were promoted, I can assure you that the other managers who are now your peers must have approved of the decision. I will never promote someone who does not have the respect of the current management. Try to see if their disrespectful acts could just be poor attempts to help you get better. I have a couple managers that work for me that can tend to be too tough on the other newer managers, but they do it because they are trying to call the new manager to a higher standard. My newer managers thought they were being unfair at first, but after having one-on-one talks with the older managers, they resolved their differences, and now get along much better.





I think the best advice is to be open with the other managers, and their bosses as well. Ask what you can specifically do to improve your performance. You may already be doing great, and this will just let the decision-makers know your are driven and reliable.





You will do well to appeal to your team members who are now your subordinates to do as you ask out of respect for you. I have had very close friends work for me, and work can complicate things if you don't separate work and social times. I would have to discipline a friend just as harshly as I would anyone else. If you do this based on their acts, not on emotions or feelings, then you will be able to strengthen your relationship outside of work.





Bottom line? Continue to work hard, be fair in decision-making and communicate with your bosses to find out what are the goals you should set for the business. I guarantee you that if you perform on a financial stand-point, and maintain the respect of the crew, the other managers will either respect you or look very bad to your bosses.





Don't lose heart! You can do it!
In today's world you are NOT a ';Manager';. You want to think and act like a:





LEADER,


COACH,


MOTIVATOR





Team members are the key to your success! You want to ';Empower'; your team while holding them accountable for their daily tasks, duties, goals, etc. That's the hardest part of being a ';Manager';. You can do it as you seem to be a good leader. You can read some good books on leadership. Like ';Good To Great!'; ';Leading For Growth!'; ';Inside The Magic Kingdom!'; ';The Servant Leader!'; ';The One Minute Manager'; ';The Change Monster!'; ';Follow This Path!'; Have a group meeting to air out any issues and support your team by helping them to achieve consistent success. Find out how each Team member likes to be rewarded? And go from there... GOOD LUCK! :-) From the Motivator
New managers bring new insights and new life to every company. And new managers (as well as old managers) can and will make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move on. If you want input on your progress, only ask your immediate supervisor. Perhaps your new position is already set up for 90-day reviews. Be proactive and ask for brief input every 30 days. Nothing fancy; nothing sinister. Maybe even a simple ';How am I doing, Boss?';





Remember that you do not have to please your co-managers, just your supervisor. Follow his/her strategies and tactics to achieve your objectives - weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly. And then work with your team to over-achieve for their benefit and the company's benefit.





And this may sound a bit old fashioned, but read an old book that is still one of the best management books ever written. Read, digest, and practice ';The One-Minute Manager.'; There is a terrific axiom in there that says ';Catch people doing something right.'; Let that become your #1 Rule of Management.





As for the respect of your co-managers -- Remember that respect is earned, not just given. Go earn their respect by being the very best manager you can be. You will do fine.
This is my opinion. It may help you in overcoming the trouble you have at work place.


Remember, '; WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH; THAN THE TOUGH WILL GET GO';


At this moment you need to be mentally very strong. Do not worry about others bad behavior towards you. It is going to be there, as long as you want it. This is the time you get the **** on your face, take it with proud and wash it up. Go back and do your work as usual. Think twice before you do any thing. This way you can avoid even repeating small mistakes. By avoiding mistake you are denying opportunity to those sick people. To gain some extra knowledge, if you have to spend extra time, Please do it. This will help you to be sharper and smarter than other. At the same time if any one does any mistake don't poke at them. Instead tell them to take it easy. Help every one if you can. This will help you to gain more friends in your work place. Some times if you get stressed, just walk away, go some where, stay alone, think positively about all the thinks happening around you. Further take it as a challenge. One day you will be able to win over every one in your work place including those bad guys. The bad guys won.t stop unless you force them to stop. The stopping is not going to happen over night, not by force. It will happen through you, with your smartness.


Be smart, Think that you can handle every one well ans be positive.





Good luck to you

Any advice for a new African Grey owner?

I recently adopted my uncle's African Grey, BaeBae. My uncle has lung cancer and can't take care of him any longer. I'm a huge animal person, so I'm loving having this new guy around! I've never had a bird though... so I'm hoping someone on here could give me a few tips.





I think because of the change he's a little stressed. He's plucked out a bunch of feathers. I read that if you give them showers it helps. I gave him one yesterday, which he seemed to enjoy, but he's still pulcking. Anyone know of a way to help him out?Any advice for a new African Grey owner?
It is wonderful that you are caring for him. Right now he is plucking to relieve the stress he feels about losing his companion/home, and moving to a new one.





Just show him that he can trust you - clean food and water daily, clean cage, toys to play with and most of all your companionship. Just sitting in the same room and talking to him can help relieve some of it. My Greys and I enjoy watching Food Network together.





There are great books and websites that can offer more advice. They are my Parrot Bibles.Any advice for a new African Grey owner?
I didn't get to respond in time - I have a African grey: You need to feed him fruits and veggies - DAILY. Frozen veggies are fine - just heat up. Oatmeal, grains, whole grain sugar free cereal - just remember that seeds should be smallest part of his diet

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he is plucking his feathers out of stress and bieng bored they need a lot of attention they are very people oriented and alot like small children


if he keeps plucking his feathers take him to a vet who is familiar with birds because he will pluck all of them out and look like a chicken.

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He probable is very stressed out and sad. African Greys are very sensitive and he is probable missing your uncle. Make sure he has lots of toys to keep him busy and active. Baths should help if his skin is dry. Just show him lots of love and attention and you will be rewarded. It may take some time but it is so worth it. Also you can take him to the vet and have him examined, sometime when they pick it is because they are sick, they can also give him a shot that lasts a month and it relaxes them and they won't pick. Good luck! They are great!
I think all the above is right! My parrot was plucking her feathers a while back.......mostly her wing feathers, I took to her to an avarian vet, she had swollowed a little piece of metal, I am not saying that is the case with your bird, but if the plucking persists I would have him checked out by a vet, just in case.


One typ the vet gave me...let the bird be near when you are having your meals. let it him have some titbits from you while you are eating, this is supposed to make them feel more part of the family. Good luck
I am glad to know that your Uncle's companion is getting a great home. The stress will eventually even out. The bird is mourning the loss of his friend, Toys are always needed for birds. I like to buy baby toys, some of the teething things are great for birds to chew on. I also have the ';chains'; hanging from the top of my conure's cage, and he loves to play with them. Good luck with your new friend. Sounds like BaeBae will have a great place to live.
you just have to try help minimilise the stress. Does your uncle have anything that he use to give to the bird like a blanket or a specific toy? your bird will de-stress if he has familiar things and smells around him. Make sure that the bird is in a comfortable place away from loud noises such as washing machines etc. and away from other pets, sunlight, direct heat and away from other people. This will help him settle in and feel more secure in his new environment. It may take a few days for him to stop plucking at himself, ifit carries on for over a week more then i would take him to the vets and get it checked out as it could be self harm. Just make sure that everything is as much the same as it can be. hopes this helps!
hi my advise is that he is stressing because he has had to leave his owner so i would spend as much time as i can with him has he got toys in there with him and does he come out of his cage if not i would get him out and buy some toys for him but spend time with him so he can trust you once he knows you he will be fine just give him time hope this helps and good luck from tracie

Advice on new Shocks / Struts for my firebird / trans am?

Typically I just get whatever is cheapest. But for this I want to get a better product.





What shocks or struts are good? What brands? On ebay I see Bilstein and Gabriel brands.





What is monotube design vs twin tube design?





Do I also need to replace the mounts? What about Sway links?Advice on new Shocks / Struts for my firebird / trans am?
Now when it comes to shocks buy a brand name such as Bilstein, KYB, Koni or any other performance brand if u plan to keep your car a long time. Please don't go for the gabriels since on autozone sells then and I have no idea how well they work. Had a friend once use them and was very dissatisfied with them.

What would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?

I am sure he would love to receive public opinions and correct him self to be an effective, respectable , good, powerful President , who can bring back our lost images and respect all over the world too.





Advice to diffuse financial crisis, improvement employment market, prevent fraud, bring back troops, stop small wars , get medical aid and whatever he promised to us .





HE IS A GOOD GUY - HE BRINGS HOPE FOR NEW LIFE. TO DAY.





GOOD LUCKWhat would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?
I would tell him to give more finances to state education. Then people would be able to form a proper question and possibly a sentence or two.





I would tell him to start the draft back up. I mean America has 144,128,690 Americans that are able to serve and only 1,500,000 Americans with enough balls to serve our country and ensure the freedom and democracy that the country stands for.What would you advice to Elect President on New Year day ?
I would advise him to admit that he's in over his head, and a recycling of the Clinton Administration in conjunction with a DEMOCRAT controlled legislature is the last thing this nation needs.





After that he should step down and call upon the country to support an experienced leader in a White House with a bipartisan makeup, and ask someone like Newt Gingrich to step in as President with Biden as VP.





That's the kind of compromise that WORKS for this nation. What we will see after mid-January will NOT WORK, and will take us lower and lower until we finally wake up.
Dear mr. President, make sure you rule the country subject to the guidance of God.. No man on earth has the ability to fix this world's problems. Who can make a collective mind change in this country?


No matter how hard you try, if congress opposes you, nothing will happen. Put God and his wisdom first then your abilities will shine.





Good luck Mr. president
he should remember his allies just like Bush did He should visit Poland and remember that Polish people and the Polish goverment helped USA and will try to help USA every time its good to have small allies that can enter places the USA Cannot Poland helped the USA negotiate with China back in Regan administration and Polish mediators can still be useful USA inteligence should coperate with the Polish inteligence as we often posses information that might be usefull for the US
I would suggest to back away from any agenda, the liberals try to bring to the table. Continue with the tax breaks, don't raise any taxes. Don't cut military spending...





Socialisim will only run America... No socialized medicine!!!





Don't screw things up like Clinton did!
he better make a ';Change'; or else he's going to have some pretty mad Americans on his hands. Also continue with the border fence. Hey, they already started and have some sections almost finished. Plus, it's providing jobs for people right now.
I would tell him to do the best thing he can for our Country... And that would be to back down from office. He is a liar and a deceiver. He wasn't even born in America. There is no reason that he should have the power to run a country. End of story.
Spend more federal money on public education if this question is any indication.
Please for Gods sake, do yourself, your family and your Nation a good service and quit now.
Govern from the center, don't cave in to far left or far right extremists.
Admit he is not up to the job and resign
DUCK MUTHA SCRATCHA!
Quit
just do what he said he would

chemical face peel

Any advice on a new job, i start tomorrow!?

im so excited! its a dream job and i was just wondering if anyone had some ways to start it out right.Any advice on a new job, i start tomorrow!?
Be friendly - everyone is nervous the first day - it's so awkward! Ask good questions, make eye contact, etc.

What kind of advice do I give my ex boyfriend about his failing new relationship?

My ex boyfriend (daughter's daddy) and I are good friends %26amp; lately he has been coming to me wanting advice on what he should do about his new girlfriend %26amp; their relationship that is falling apart or just not there at all. Problem is it drives me crazy talking about her with him...but I really do want to help him!! HELP ME! *smiles*What kind of advice do I give my ex boyfriend about his failing new relationship?
Let's see, you have his child, and he is running around with someone else. The only way you can really help this loser is tell him to hit the road and grow up. He sounds like a real loser to me.

Any advice for my first day as a new manager?

I will be starting a new job in a few weeks as a manager. I will be training with the outgoing manager for about a week. Anyone have any stories that would help to calm my nerves as I start on this? I would like to make a good impression on the employees and let them know that I want to be a good boss without coming across as a push-over. Any suggestions? What would you do differently about your first day, if you had the chance?Any advice for my first day as a new manager?
Be fair, firm, and don't put out vibes like you are looking to kick butt and cut someone down to size. It is better to have employees like and respect you and doing their jobs, than to have them fearing to screw up - and doing so because they are sweating for their jobs. See a problem? Quietly correct it - seek input from your workers. They are doing the job, they may know something about it you don't. As manager, your job is to keep things running smoothly. If they already are, don't rock the boat - at least not all at once..

Any advice on how to start a new life away from an abusive relationship?

10 months on.. i dont live in my home country. i need to know how to escape my ex and the abusive life we had.Any advice on how to start a new life away from an abusive relationship?
i agree with summertime mom


leave him, don't look back,


you deserve someone better,


someone like me....(ouch! my girlfriend just gave me a whack on the head...)


anyway, try hookin'up with someone else, just make sure to do a background check on him.


if you're not ready for that yet, try getting urself okupied wid other things like work or something.


here's another option, go to ur home country, and change ur identity, and then go to asia or someplace like that.


hope i could be of great help....Any advice on how to start a new life away from an abusive relationship?
there are hot lines for this, look them up via


internet ( I found one in Wildwood NJ via internet)





all I can say is leave %26amp; don't look back








best of luck
Find a new, nice affordable place. Get involved into: a) seeing other people or b) lots of work = whatever works better for you. Spend some you-time, learn about you and what is that made you got where you are. Do not think about your ex, get a pet or someone new. Being in another country has some advantages for someone going through that, but will mostly put additional strain on you, lean onto your friends. If you don't have them, find ;em. If you feel life is slipping through your hands, seek professional help. Good luck!
There are shelters for ppl in abusive relationships and they can lead you on the right path to escape him for good. Go to counselling to get through the horrible life you've had to live...they also can guide you on the right path to have a Safe Life*


There are many support groups you can go to..where other woman have survived and moved on with their life*


Stay strong..Don't Return to him Ever*........You can do this* Keep on Smiln*
go and make nice friends or who dont abuse when u saw them u ll also stop abuse or get marry
Contact your local shelter or women's counseling center; they will have all the information you'll need to get away safely.





Once you've escaped and are really ready to start over, make a list of all the things you've wanted to do but were unable to because of him. Then, go and do them one by one - and enjoy them greatly!





I rode horses on a beach, sailed on a tall ship, earned another Master's degree, drove around the country and met new people - and I enjoyed everything I chose to do.





Leave now; a better, more enjoyable life is waiting!
Leave all you past memories with yuor ex and start moving on and make a new and better life with others.
I'm so glad to hear you left... that's a good start... I don't know your financial situation......leaving the area entirely would be the best route. Look on the net to see what type of housing and support there is in your area for spousal abused people. There is housing to hide from him... along with options and excellent advise with step by step on how to get started. What the next steps are to take... and so on... They are the experts and know the laws for your area.





When you do get your own place......Have your new phone number UNLISTED for starters, that way he cant find your new address. Get an apartment where utilities are included so you name doesn't show up on any type of bills. I don't know how sneaky he is.





Now about your job. Try to get another if its one that you dont really like. Or let your'e co-workers know what has happened, the more they know the better they will be able to help protect you.
The most important thing now is to make sure you are okay. Deal with any feelings you have about your ex, because you don't want to bring all that junk into any relationship you may want to start. Once you have dealt with all the emotional issues get herself in church let God continue to heal you where you hurt. Meet new people, get to know the people in the church you will be surprise at the nice Godly men there is in church looking to start new Godly relationship.





I'm Praying For You..
Well you could try to do things where he can not see where you are going make sure you clean up evidence so he can not find out where you are going. That is a very scary thing to do and to get away is hard but try your hardest and I really hope you get away from him. You must deserve better and I wish you best best best of luck.
Just get ur luggage and important numbers of your friends or relatives , jump aboard and run but before that get yourself a job and accommdation.Everything needs to be planned including escaping!
If there are no children involved simply leave and have no further contact whatsoever with the abuser. Do not in any way provide the abuser a means to contact you. The very best thing to do is to get some counseling through the domestic violence organization in your community. They will be able to give you support and ideas of how to cope with your present situation and permanently disengage from the abuser. DO NOT RETURN to the abusive situation no matter how difficult things become. It's obviously better to be very poor than dead.......which is were abuse ultimately leads.
been there, done that.....you need to move forward and not look back....move to a new city/state and find a new job...start over with a clean slate and remember, this is NOT you fault, he is the one with the problem not you...remember that always
Go online, go to clubs, get dolled up and go get you a man, if you believe it you can acheive it.

Any advice on how a running back can get bulked up before the new season starts?

And Any football tips that any of u guys.....(or girls) may have to offer would be cool with me!Any advice on how a running back can get bulked up before the new season starts?
running ankles weight and work out twice a day 6 days a week... morning cardio and night time weight liftingAny advice on how a running back can get bulked up before the new season starts?
well consume lots of protein and lift


of course what kind of lifting you do will greatly vary your results


I would recommend a little lower weight, slow controlled repetitions...the amount your lifting won't be as huge and your muscles might not get as big, but you'll gain much more strength this way, which will be way more beneficial in the long run
Run up and down stadium stairs, or run in a pool.

I have a new home and I've discovered that there is a pear tree in our backyard- any advice on care for me?

I do not have any experience with fruit-bearing trees. Any information shared with me would very much be appreciated. I live in Wisconsin( very cold winters) if that would affect anything.I have a new home and I've discovered that there is a pear tree in our backyard- any advice on care for me?
Fruit Bearing trees need to be put on a regular pesticide program or bugs will eat all your fruit. Fruit trees will also attract animals to your yard. Also there are proper pruning techniques that must be followed in order to get the most fruit out of the tree. They require a lot of work. My advice to you would be to either let it go and get what you can get out of it or call a professional to take care of it.

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Im getting ready to go to New Mexico on vacation and have no idea where to go.Any advice for good attractions?

We're planning a vacation and I know New Mexico has a lot to offer but we don't even know where to start. We want it to be affordable but fun at the same time. Any ideas?Im getting ready to go to New Mexico on vacation and have no idea where to go.Any advice for good attractions?
Head for your nearest bookstore or library and browse the travel guides on New Mexico to find things that particularly interest you. This can depend on exactly when you're going depending on what interesting festivals or exhibitions may be going on. You can also try sites like: http://www.go-newmexico.com/NM/travel/si鈥?/a> or http://travel.nytimes.com/travel/guides/鈥?/a> or http://www.bottger.com/old-town-hidden-g鈥?/a> .





My US home is in Colorado, not so far from New Mexico. Some of the places I particularly like are: Chaco Canyon - http://www.go-newmexico.com/Chaco-Canyon鈥?/a> , the Enchanted Circle Drive, Taos, Old Town Albuquerque, and the Petroglyph monumentIm getting ready to go to New Mexico on vacation and have no idea where to go.Any advice for good attractions?
New Mexico state of Billy the kid,Big casinos, and John carpenters Vampire.If you have alot of money or just a little. This place is for you. If you like mountain views or valley lakes. This state has it all natural springs. Roswell nyce they saw aliens out there. the first atomic bomb was made here

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I need advice and ideas for new Tourist Company?

I am planing to make a new Tourism Company . I want to know what's the best way to contact with prestigious companies and hotels around the world , companies has great offers and Tourism service from '; Europe-south and north America-Asia '; . And I need some ideas or advices to make special and successful company . If there is web sites for that kind of business I would be grateful for the person who 'll give it to me .





Thank you allI need advice and ideas for new Tourist Company?
Pamphlets in Rental Car Companies


also Put your Tourism Information on the Web-sites Places %26amp; Things to do...


San Diego, etc....


I hope this helps you out abitI need advice and ideas for new Tourist Company?
Basically, you need a consulter in this about. At the same time, if you are carring the kind of big programme, you have to experince working in one of related companies, at least. I had worked on a book named ';Informational Travelling'; but couldn't publish it yet for investing problems. For this book, I searched for several tourist companies and it was succesful. Look for finding just one of good companies for starting.

Purchasing The Sims 3 and a new PC, Need advice?

I need to know what the best computer on the market is for under $1700 that will play The Sims 3 the best if anyone has any suggestions please let me know i was considering an HP Touchsmart PC or Dell PC with quad-core tecnology.Purchasing The Sims 3 and a new PC, Need advice?
you wouldn't want a TouchSmart computer for playing the Sims 3 your gonna wanna have a mouse for that. I mean thats what I would think.





But i love you lol.! The Sims ROCKS!!!! :) i hope you have fun playing it.!!Purchasing The Sims 3 and a new PC, Need advice?
My Dell dual-core PC can run it so a quad-core will be excellent.
i have a sony vaio ns series


its 799.99 and it runs sims 3


hope this helps :)

Any advice for showering after getting a new arm tattoo?

I just got a moderate sized tattoo on my right arm on Friday.





I know about not getting it overly wet, and keeping my arm away from the direct water flow from the shower.





I'm just wondering how many of you have handled the showering after a tattoo. Do you just keep the tattoo away from direct water flow and that's it, or do you also try to protect it by wrapping something around it?





Ideas and experiences would be appreciated!





ThanksAny advice for showering after getting a new arm tattoo?
Nah babes, you can just shower like normal. I have these here ones on my shoulder and I just took a shower. The only suggestion I would make is to wash it with a REALLY mild soap, instead of bar soap which can be really drying. Say Johnson and Johnsons baby soap, the yellow one.








Towel dry it off asap, and put your ointment on it. Aquaphor is good.....Any advice for showering after getting a new arm tattoo?
You could always try wrapping it in something like saran wrap.





The only catch is that it's dangerous to keep the plastic on it for too long as it could grow bacteria. I would cover the tattoo with gauze or something similar, wrap it in plastic to prevent the water from hitting it directly, shower quickly, and then remove the covering and clean it well.
I hope your tattoo works out. I don't have any tattoos because I am waiting for direct instructions from Ms. Lohan as to what she would like to see on my body.





Incidentally, why the long face in the avatar? All my pajama party friends went home after ';Labor Pains'; was over because they have to ';work'; tomorrow (pshhh!), and I am not sad!





SMILE, it is what Ms. Lohan wants for all her fans.





Lindsay Bless You, Go in Peace.
I didn't know getting a tatoo could be so complicated. Remind me not to get one. I was going to suggest anit-bacterial soap, but it sounds like you aren't even supposed to get the thing wet. What if it gets dirty?
i showered normally too and mine was fine, i just rubbed it softly to clean it.


but really dead doll has 40 hours of ink,she should know best and she showered normally
I just showered normally.
bird bath style....

I got my ex wife pregnant and my new girl friend is pregnant need advice?

Should I tell my girl friend that I got my ex wife pregnant or leave it alone? My ex wife says she won't tell besides she is very well off.I got my ex wife pregnant and my new girl friend is pregnant need advice?
Advice?





Wrap it up in the future!I got my ex wife pregnant and my new girl friend is pregnant need advice?
Call both of them immediately and confess your ';weak character';, beg your girlfriend to forgive you and to still allow you to be a part of your childs life.





If you want any chance of a future with your girlfriend you must begin practicing ';full-disclosure'; and complete transparency. Don't allow your ex wife to hold such power of you and your girlfriend, do you really want to carry around such a burden?





You may want to wait until your girlfriend actually has the baby, this will probably destroy her. You have ruined your girlfriend. Do you understand what I'm saying? She will be so angry and broken-hearted.





The consequences of cheating in your case are impossible to even quantify, for your girlfriend it means she can never look at you the same, never trust you again, never ever.





You should consider a Vasectomy.
You need to tell her then get another job . You are going to need it to support these kids .


I don't care if your ex wife is well off . Hell she could be Donald Trumps daughter and it wouldn't matter . You helped to create these children and you need to help care for them until the age of 18 .


You also need to either start using condoms , get neutered , or keep it in your pants . There are too many children in this world as it is that are with out fathers , you do not need to add to the list .
HA HA HA! Is this a joke? If it's not then your in a mess. If you slept with you ex wife before you got together with your girlfriend, then tell your girl. If not, I don't know what you should do. She would probably leave you. But you can't deny either children so, I'd say tell her and be there for both women and the children.
You should probably come clean with all. If you want something long term with the girl friend, it would be better to come out now from you. God forbid you piss off your ex wife and now she has something on you. Divorce should be celebrated by enjoying the best part....not having the other have control. Besides your one kid should have the right to know his or her sister/brother (half)
First advice--get a vasectomy! After that, tell your girlfriend. You


know she will find out anyway, kind of hard to keep a baby a


secret, unless you decide to NOT be a part of its' life. If


that's the case, she needs to know that you are not the kind


of guy who stands by his children or the mother of his children,


so she can see what kind of guy you REALLY are.
Well first things first you need to go to your local sperm bank and make a donation because you have some strong stuff! That way those women that want to be mothers but their husband's sperm count too low etc can have the joy of raising a baby.


LOL tell the new girlfriend you got her pregnant, just in passing like during a commerical on tv or something. It's not that big of a deal, she should understand.
People...you don't have to agree with someone to give them advice. Now, to the asker I would say that I don't agree with your choices but I don't know you so what is my opinion mean. I will say this though, I think in order to have a clear conscious you should talk to your girlfriend. Just be honest with her. You'll feel alot better, you won't have to look over your shoulder wondering when she'll find out. So just spill. You were man enough to get both pregnant, let her know. Good Luck
you need to fess up. your going to have kids the same age. they need to know they have a sibling from the get go or they will be hurt if they find each other later in life. i found out i had siblings i never knew about through the internet and it felt like everyone in my family stabbed me in the back by covering up this part of my life.
honestly. she deserves to know the truth.





BUT i think you should wait until she has given birth. upsetting a woman that is pregnant can be dangerous.





after she has had the baby. you should tell her what you have done.





and then... she gets to decide to put up with you or dump you.


if she decides to stay with you she will need years to ever believe you again.





and what you did is horrible....do not make anymore selfish decisions.
1st. Tell your girlfriend about your ex-wife and tell your ex-wife about your girlfriend.





2nd. Keep it in your pants. If you can't keep it in your pants then either learn to use a condom properly or go to the doctors and get a vasectomy.





3rd.Be a part of both of those babies' lives because they are Both your kids.
Keep that pickle in your pants. Who knows how many children you have out there? You are just like my sisters baby's daddy. She found out he had two other children one with his wife, a girlfriend and now my sisters 4-year-old girl. She left him and he still would like her back. She said no you are married so he went back to the other girlfriend. My sister is the only one who gets child support-and that is only if he is working they garnish his checks for the support money. Its is vary sad ';mommy why can't I get this?''...because baby your dead beat father can not help us he quit his job.
I believe you should disclose the information however you committing the behvior of cheating and lying is enough for others to get an idea of what type of person you are. Not to be trusted and definately not faithful. I proberly do not have to ask why your first marriage broke up.
It will all have to come out in the open someday, so you should tell her now instead of waiting.. the babies afterall will be half-siblings!! I think your girlfriend deserves to know the truth.





And PLEASE do yourself a favour and learn to keep it in your pants! Or at least wrap it up!
My advice is for you to be honest with your GF.





Also stop sleeping with both women and decide who you want to be with.





Don't you want all of your children to know each other and be able to play and grow up with one another?





You are still a little boy in my opinion...GROW UP
i think in the future if youre gonna tap it you better wrap it...


yea i think you should go ahead and let your girlfriend know that her child is gonna have a half brother or sister....its gonna come out sometime..


might just as well b honest with her and let her know that you cheated on her...
you're on a very difficult situation. even if your ex doesn't require you to take care or pay for anything, it'll still be your child. and your current girlfriend will find out one day. so it's one situation, that the sooner you speak the better.
You need to sit down and tell your girlfriend what happened as it will all come out eventually.......You owe her that much......maybe you can salvage the relationship with your girlfriend but tell her....Be worse if she just hears it.....Act more responsible next time and use protection.........
WoW!!! what a mess!!! i think you should try to keep it in your pants. thats what happens when you mess around!!!! i have no advice except that you just need to suck it up and learn from your mistakes. take care of your responsibilities.
Get yourself down to the Vet and get yourself fixed.





What sort of relationship will it be if it starts with lies?





Your ex-wife will have you by the cajones for the rest of your life - just cut them off to protect yourself.
Does the word ';Vascetomy'; Mean anything to you? What do you think Condoms are made for? do you think that are made to be blown up like toy balloons? the only advise i can give you is get your head out of your @ss
You are about to have 2 kids. Act like it. Own up and be a father to both of them. Just because she is well off doesnt mean you should be off the hook.





Keep your fly zipped man.
Your girlfriend WILL find out eventually so don't hide it from her because she'll just get more upset with you the longer you wait. Sounds to me like you're going to have a lot of explaining to do.
Don't worry about telling - it's all going to come out eventually. Believe it or not - someone will slip, get hormonal and tell - I could go on and on...you are so screwed and you did it to yourself.
Don't you hate when that happens!!!





the right thing would be to be honest with your girlfriend.





the thing you should do is make sure your a good father no matter


what happens...





and learn from this......WRAP IT UP!!!!
your gf deserves to know that her unborn child will have a sibling. she should also know that you are a disgusting horn dog that can't or won't decide between his past and his future.
seriously keep the dog in the kennel n i would suggest abortion or have another child, but try not to leave them %26amp; look fter them and try not to do the same thing again gud luck
I don't mean to be rude but the first thing I thought of was Maury. LOL





In all seriousness though, I think you should let your girlfriend know because you're going to be in your child's life (from your ex), right?
My advice to you is get a vasectomy or start using condoms. You are in a mess right now you might as well come clean to both of them.
The worst thing you can do is not tell your wife. If u love her, u have to tell her....TAKE MI ADVICE
Yeah you need to tell your girlfriend you moron!! What the heck are you doing sleeping with your ex-wife when you have a girlfriend you pig!

Hellllllp i need advice to make my new hamster more confrotable?

i got a new ham lol and it has a huge critter trial cage and it has room for fun toys i was wondering what kind of toys are fun for hammies and can you send me a picture of them hehe i love you allHellllllp i need advice to make my new hamster more confrotable?
Go to the pet store and rock out with your bad self. Hamsters love anything made of wood, and you can buy lil houses made of wood that they can chew on AND sleep in. You should be aware that they'll chew on plastic, which can't be good for their digestion, so you might want to stick with wood, fiber, and those cardboard tubes that come out of toilet paper rolls. Also, while plastic tubing is fun for them to run in, hamsters poo and piddle EVERYWHERE, and the plastic tubing is extremely difficult to keep clean.Hellllllp i need advice to make my new hamster more confrotable?
Tons of wood sticks and lots and lots of cherio's.





I love watching mine stuff her little cheeks with Cherio's.


I never had such a good time watching her have a ball with those tasty little O's :)

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Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?

I just started playing on Saturday. Learning the basics. Any advice you can give that might help?Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
Always start by doing quests in the starting area. Try not to skip any as most will teach you the basics of the game. Never try and rush things, if u ever run into a problem, visit the forums or ask a fellow player. Joining a guild may also help in your questing or trading. LASTLY, do not be rude(e.g leaving the party in the middle of a quest). if you are rude, most players will not like you and that will not help in your questing etc...Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
If you are in a dungeon and someone on your team yells, ';LEEROY JENKINS!'; then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
1) Go through the basic quests in the starting area - they'll give some good instructions on how to play your class.





2) Pick up and sell *everything*. Get bags as soon as possible - the more spaces you have, the more you'll be able to drag back to town to sell.





3) Check out the worldofwarcraft.com forums or the stuff on wowwiki.com - you can pick up some great tips on how to play. thottbot.com can help with info on quests and skills.





4) Don't be afraid to work with others - it can help get past some of those difficult spots.





5) Don't take it too seriously - you're there to have fun. If something's frustrating... step back, take a break, and try it later.
uh...never ever buy stuff (weapons, armor) from NPCs.





don be afraid to ask for help in the main channels





join a guild early, if you have a fren playing already and who is in a guild. guildies help a lot





if u are playing a hunter or warrior...can add me in msn at y_liming@hotmail.com basically i can answer everything regarding these 2 class. i been playing ever since the beta





have fun...but control urself.





cheers
Dude quit while you still have a chance. You will get sucked in and not have a life. endofstory.

I'm 55, out of shape and want to buy a new bicycle. I need advice?

I'm thinking a comfort bike will be my best bike. I like the diversity of the Giant Sedona. I really don't want to go over $500 as that is my budget. Any suggestions would be welcome!I'm 55, out of shape and want to buy a new bicycle. I need advice?
Go ride some $1000 dollar bikes, and find one you like, then look for a used one. Just make sure it feels good and tight, lubed, and no weird clicking or anything.


Get a used one and have it tuned at a local bike shop.I'm 55, out of shape and want to buy a new bicycle. I need advice?
Try:





www.bikesdirect.com





They have comfort bikes along with most other classes. I bought my road bike there and saved a lot of $$$.





Before you decide I'd go to a bike shop and check out all of them and see what you like and what size you are the start comparing cost.
Buy a good used bike. After about a week you will know if you want to ride or not.


Then buy a $100 bike off Craigslist.
I would definitely go to a bike shop, but pick one that you trust. Ask around - people will tell you where the honest dealers are located. They will also tell you about the best techs to help support the bike once you're up and riding. You will find that a Giant Sedona is a good choice when looking to get back into shape. It's a good brand and has good components. Be sure to ask them to help you set up a training schedule so you can work your way into better health. Good for you for doing this!
Giant Sedona is a good hybrid. Make you are sold one that fits you. Make sure you budget for accessories like helmet and a comfy pair of padded bike shorts....even if you don't look sexy in Spandex, they are worth it. You can probably regular shorts over them, too.





Other options:





I was looking at some bikes on the web for my brother...





my criteria


-hybrids


-700c size wheels instead of MTB wheels


-not too whimpy looking


-300 - $500 MSRP (you can probably find these bike


cheaper than MSRP generally. also if you find a past


year model you might get a good deal.)


-enough gearing to ride up most hills if you are in


decent shape.








The Sirrus, San Rafael, and the 7.2FX are more


performance-oriented and have fast skinny tires.


The others are more comfy, but not grand pa-ish in any


way and have fatter tires that can be taken on hard


dirt paths occassionally.





Specialized Sirrus (base model) (comes in ladies


step-thru model)


Specialized Globe (base model) (comes in ladies


step-thru model)


Marin San Rafael (has front shocks)


Marin Kentfield or Larkspur (marinbikes.com)


Trek 7.2FX (trekbicycles.com)


Trek 7200(comes in ladies step-thru model)


Trek 7100(comes in ladies step-thru model)


Bianchi Bay City (www.bianchiusa.com)
You are right to consider the Giant, they make good products. The comfort bikes were built for people like you. You might also conside one of the new Lime bikes from Trek. They have the automatic shifter. I think Raleigh and one other company also make them with the auto shifter. I think they are in the $500 range.
go to a bike shop and get measured for a bike. they'll help you find one that is perfect for your height and weight, and your needs.

What is a good kissing strategy for the first time with a new guy? Advice pleasee!!?

it will probably happen tomorrow.





so like.....





should i keep my eyes open, half open, or closed?





should we kiss long, or just a short one?





should I kiss him twice, or just once and smile?What is a good kissing strategy for the first time with a new guy? Advice pleasee!!?
ok im a guy, if you really like him go up to him and make a move...dont keep your eyes open, the length of the kiss will be determined when kissing, you cant just be liek 1,2,3,4...etc lol just go with the flow...the number of times you kiss will also come depending on how much you guys like eachother or if its just a peck or french....try biting the lower lip a lil(? up to you), some guys like a lil rough action i know i usually do that to girls and fi theyve never had it happen they usually like it, but dont bite too hard!! haha i hope this helps you out - if your worried about that dont bite at all lol good luck kiddoWhat is a good kissing strategy for the first time with a new guy? Advice pleasee!!?
eyes closed, let him make the first move, let him lead, and do what u feel is right. its different for everyone. dont pull away too soon, that will give the wrong impression
eyes open looks wierd. short is best for first time, and just once but let him do it a second time if he wants
closed eyes and go with the flow tell the guy hes ur first he'll help you through it:)
eyes = closed





go with the flow





then smile =)
Less is more
um... i suggest to make out with him as long as possible...

I am starting a new school and I need advice?

So I am going from a school of a little over 300 students to a school of over 2000. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to make friends or just any advice in general?I am starting a new school and I need advice?
Calm down. Take a deep breath. Relax. Look yourself in the mirror and say ';I am totally cool, smart, and I have nothing to fret over.'; Upperclassmen can smell a ';scared or nervous'; freshman from a mile away and they might try to pick with you. Be confident and assertive at all times.


Stay Organized. Keep your notes, handouts, and other materials in a well organized manner. Being organized will help you make excellent grades and if your teachers are the type to take up notebooks for grading, they will really appreciate it. It also helps ease anxiety, and saves you alot of time.


Be yourself.


If you find any extracurricular activities you are interested in, by all means find out more information and try out for them. Don't be scared. Now is your time to shine and do what you want to do. You will meet your best friends this way.


If you have plans to attend college, make sure that you start your high school career off right (3.3 at least-B+ average). If you find yourself struggling in any of your courses, tell your teacher or parents immediately so they can help you.


Have fun! High school memories last a life time.I am starting a new school and I need advice?
Be social, talk to your guidance counselor, and focus on your grades.





Also never look for the approval of others. This is a downward spiral once you start. Never get in with the ';drugz iz cool'; crowd. They'll be a dropout working at the kwik-e-mart 2 years from now lol its true.





If someone randomly asks if your a freshman don't tell them. (My sophomore year a guy walks up to me and my friend when we're in the lunch line and asks if were freshmen. I'm like ';what for?'; and he says if i am a freshman than he gets to skip me. so i was like ';no bihh'; lol)





Just be cool confident and enjoy that your freshman year is your easiest in school work. Its the year you find yourself so be open to new things and have fun! :)
The day u start school.. just look yourself in the mirror and think positive of yourself..if people come to you and say hi say hi back ..and try to be in the most clubs as u can because the most clubs the more friends you'll have because all of u have something in common...and if u do good in this class or club and people say nice job say thnk u dont ';snap your fingers at them'; dont be a show off. that is the first thing that gives people abad impression about u and u dont want that on ur first day..
Go in with a smile, walk with your back straight, shoulders back and chin up-it shows confidence. Don't worry and just try to be friendly! Small talk is always good-ask someone who looks nice where something is or compare schedules. Good luck
Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

Need some advice on buying a new car! What to get?

Hey guys, please let me thank you in advance for your help on this. I currently have a 2002 wranger, and it was fun a year ago, i am start to grow tired of it. I want a newer, sleaker car. i miss AC, and all the stuff in a sedan. I am trying to find something that looks cool, is some what luxury, and has some power to it. all in all when i give someone a ride, or pull up nex tto people they will take a look at it an say wow, nice car.





I have been looking at the Cadillac cts-v, i like the looks and the V8 will give me the power to get up and go. but i was reading reviews, of people saying there are tons of blind spots, and the lack of controls for the seats make it hard to get used to.





im only looking to drop around 30k give or take, so please if you have one that you like or you think i would like, let me know!





Thanks!Need some advice on buying a new car! What to get?
Man if you want power and looks, go for the GTO. V8, 0 to 60 in a heartbeat, Rockin 8 speaker Bose sound system. Don't pull a cadi lux, that's saying you like to be comfortable doing 10 under the limit. Go for style. You'll get more looks with the girls anyway. Trust me brotherNeed some advice on buying a new car! What to get?
anything with a hemi

I have a new pet bullfrog tadpole, and I need some advice?

It still doesn't have any legs at all yet, so I still have it in with my fish. I was wondering when I should separate it from the fish, and when it needs to have dry land available.





I got it from a pet store.I have a new pet bullfrog tadpole, and I need some advice?
When it drops its tail then its time to put him in a tank with moss as substrate and a bowl of water not too deep.


While it is still a tadpole try feeding it bloodworms you can find in aquarium shops


Do not dispose of it !I have a new pet bullfrog tadpole, and I need some advice?
Didn't they give you an instruction paper on how to raise a tad --- what they eat and when to remove them from the water??? I do remember as a kid seeing them in the creek. They disappeared when they developped legs -- but the tail was still there...history,com or discover.com might help (amphibans))
you need to dispose of it

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How long are we to be annoyed with' Making New Yahoo'? Dr Brace's stupid fuel saving advice?

Have they run out of ideas?How long are we to be annoyed with' Making New Yahoo'? Dr Brace's stupid fuel saving advice?
well said,thought i was turning into a moaning git.How long are we to be annoyed with' Making New Yahoo'? Dr Brace's stupid fuel saving advice?
Don't know about anyone else but I have absolutely no idea of what you are on about - do you have more detail please, it sounds interesting?

Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?

I've never worked as a 'perm', 'full time', 'regular' employee. I was a 'consultant' all these days. Tomorrow I'm meeting the HR person for my new job that I'll be starting in two weeks. I'm sure he is going to discuss with me about the benefits, retirement savings etc.





If he talks about retirement savings, what should I expect and how should I answer? I'm trying to be less clueless about 401K, IRA etc. What would be the best strategy to follow while negotiating those terms?





Can someone please help?





Thank you all.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
401-K you cannot go wrong. See if your employer matches your contributions and if so, how much? Have the HR or benefits specialist go over all of the mutual funds that are available to you in the 401 plan. You need to find out what the expense ratio is on the funds you feel comfortable with, the HR/benefits person can easily produce this information for you. Get in the company's plan and start saving for your retirement.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
????





You've found a company that will negotiate terms of their 401k/retirement plans?





Impressive.





Because they are typically non-negotiable, they are normally overlooked. And DON'T let them try to include it, that's a mug's game. Retirement plans are uniform for almost all employees, unless stock grants or options are being placed on your behalf.
I could be wrong here but most companies have a time requirement BEFORE you get the retirement accounts. Usually 6 months to a year. Then you get to make you choices as to how much and things. If they offer it upfront check the matching percent and is it cash match or stock match. Personally I do not like the stock matches because you can get beat if your company turns out like Enron.





Also they don't make you do those decisions on the fly. They allow you time because you may want to discuss it with your significant other.





Congratulations on the job!


Bob Laibach


www.gogreedy.com
Dont know if this is what your looking for?


Ask what is the maxim the company will match (%) to your your contribution.

Expert advice needed. How do I keep my new clothes looking new?

They cost too much money to have them looking old after only 1 or 2 washes.Expert advice needed. How do I keep my new clothes looking new?
Dry cleaning is the BEST way. Or you can try the new 'dry cleaning' tools they have at supermarkets now.





Or you can wash them in baby shampoo (better than woolite, no bleach, very gentle) and HANG DRY.





Anything you can handwash is going to look best if you are not drycleaning.Expert advice needed. How do I keep my new clothes looking new?
Use a gentle detergent. Hand washing in cold water works, but I only do this for delicates.





A fast way to ';hand wash'; regular clothes is to put cold water in the washer, add you detergent, let is rotate for a minute.





Add your clothes, let rotate for about 4 minutes. Turn off the machine.





Soak for about an hour, by pass the wash cycle and go to spin.





Add rinse water (softener or whatever) let clothes soak again. You can rotate clothes in washer for a few minutes, bypass remaining wash cycle again and go to spin.





Best advice of all: don't use the dryer. It absolutely ruins clothing. Dry heat is very hard on fiber (all that lint in the lint filter is your clothes slowly breaking down)..





Hang clothes on hangers and put in your shower stall, curtain rod, or clothes line if you have space.





Been doing this for last 2 years, and my clothes look great.
Check out this site they should be able to help you. http://www.**********************/
Dry clean or use a gentle laundry soap like Ivory Snow or Woolite. For darks I love Cheer Dark colors

New to cycling and need some advice please?

Can anyone help with my problem, have just bought a bike for the first time in 30+ years. Bike is good, had expert help in choosing right one for me, sizing etc have female geometry one so think as good as can get. Problem is that am very uncomfortable both when riding bike and generally walking around afterwards. Is this just where am just not used to cycling and am using muscles that have not been exercised before and will get better or could there be another reason.


Any genuine helpful advice only please.New to cycling and need some advice please?
that sounds like you're not used to cycling, keep at it and if it doesn't start getting better in a couple weeks take it to the shop you bought it from and have them take a look at things like your seatpost height and how far forward your seat is.New to cycling and need some advice please?
New bikes always are uncomfortable for everyone, as you are not uses to the bike yet.


also because you haven't rode a bike for a while that will contribute to your pain.


But it will go away eventually but just take it steady if you go on your bike once a day you will soon get the hang of it.


However if the problem still happens, you may need to change your seat to suit you.


Good luck with your cycling you will enjoy it and in a couple of months you will notice your leg muscles will get stronger.
Don't forget to warm down after cycling and enjoy easy 'light' recovery rides the day after a hard ride.
It probably is because you are using different muscle groups. Try doing several sort, relatively easy rides at first. This should help develop your muscles and get the saddle shaped to suit your butt. Then gradually do longer rides to increase your stamina. If the problem persists, then you can adjust the height and angle of your saddle, an move it back or forwards a little; you can also adjust the height and angle of your handlebars in case you are cramped or stretched when riding. Some more expert guidance may help, but it may just take a month or so before you feel comfortable.





If you haven't ridden for so many years you may just be tense on the bike which will probably make you sit and ride awkwardly. As you get more riding done you should get more confident and relax more. I started cycling again in my late forties after years out of the saddle, it took me about 3 months before I was comfortable, and each new bike takes a little breaking in time.
it is most likely because you are exercising muscles that arent used to being used v often it will go away after a short period of time after you get more adjusted to riding.
if you keep cyciling then you will get used to it!!!
Hi!


This will get better after you've ridden your bike for a few months but there are some things you can do to help things along. I used to get a terribly sore 'undercarriage', for want of a better expression! when I rode my bike. Don't know if you have padded cycling shorts, but these will help a lot. Also, don't know whether its actually a women's bike that you bought or mens, but does it have a women's saddle? I had a mens bike but made the mistake of buying a women's saddle thinking it would be more comfortable. It was, in fact far more uncomfortable and I changed it for a men's gel seat which was 'slimmer' than the women's seat and padded for extra comfort. Go into your local bike shop and try them out on the different bikes to get a feel for what suits you.


Also, is your seat at the correct height? You should be able to bend your knees slightly when your pedal is at its lowest point. If you are stretching too far, this could also make you uncomfortable underneath.


Hope this helps and like I say, it will get better the more you use your bike. Happy cycling!
I have 4 bikes and each one works slightly different muscle groups. The discomfort goes away the more you ride. remember, Pain is Weakness Leaving the Body. No Pain No Gain
The padded shorts recommendation is a good idea. They make padded underwear as well so you can ride comfortably in conventional clothing.
I am going to assume that your bike is properly fitted and you are wearing clothing designed for cycling. One mistake novice cyclists often make is to use too hard a gear, assuming that pedaling slowly works best. This can result in sore muscles, and if taken to extreme, even damage your knees. If it better and much more efficient to use a lower gear, and spin your pedals at from 70-90 rpm. It takes awhile to build the strength in your legs to the point where you can use your highest gears. If you see cyclists on the road, particularly those riding at faster speeds, take note of how they pedal, faster cadence, lower gears.

Any advice for installing a new bathroom medicine cabinet?

my girlfriend wants a new medicine cabinet (the kind with a mirror the goes over the bathroom sink). I foolishly said ';thats easy, i can do it for you.'; it is not recessed so can i just go to Home Depot and have her pick one out? Is it easy just to screw into the wall? Any thing i should watch out for? Help!!!Any advice for installing a new bathroom medicine cabinet?
It is fairly easy. I locate the studs in the wall, predrill some holes in the cabinet to correspond with stud locations and use screws to attach it to the wall.





I would be the pro that gets the calls, have done it many times.Any advice for installing a new bathroom medicine cabinet?
screw to studs or use molly bolts
Go to Wal-Mart, I just did one for the wife. First you can get one cheap, but sill looks great!. There is only two holes in the rear. You get the mounting screws with it.





I would recommend you go and buy the wall (drywall) stud finder that will make it so easy to find the stud (wood beam location) also get the one from Stanley. That way you can tell were the water pipes and AC electric is. Otherwise you might hurt yourself and have water problems ouch!





Now once you have located the holes, you'll need a leveler and you can get that at Wal-Mart dirt cheap.





First make a template of the holes location on the rear of the medicine cabinet. Just enough to give you idea where the holes need to go. so it would look like this: [ x x ]





1. use the stud finder and find the stud locations and mark them.


2. drill the hole for the first screw


3. use a flat piece of wood long enough to reach both holes


4. Mark the hole and level the the location use the leveler here also and it should be center.





5. Screw in the screw in the holes leave about 3/4 of inch from the screw and wall. You'll have to play it by ear here.





Once that is done you can mount the medicine cabinet to the wall. You should be all set.





Take your time, there is no rush..
keep it level


adjust hieght before anchor it


should get a couple screws into something solid it probably will rquire making new hole s in cabinet its ok as long as it stays there when done
Hire a professional.

I'm going to build houses in New Orleans, any advice from people who have done this?

I am going with my UU church to build houses in New Orleans. I'm excited but I want to be prepared emotionally and physically. I know many churches and organizations go down to lend a hand... does anyone have any advice, pragmatic or otherwise, for me?





Many thanks.I'm going to build houses in New Orleans, any advice from people who have done this?
Thank you for helping!!





You may not be prepared for the scale of the disaster. Katrina was the strongest storm ever recorded to strike North America and it wrecked an area of about 90,000 square miles (larger than Great Britain). The storm killed at least 1600 people, destroyed about 250,000 homes and businesses, plus left more than 500,000 people long-term homeless. New Orleans alone suffeed at least $200 Billion in damage.





In contrast, the recent fires in CA affected an area of about 700 square miles, killed about 7 people, destroyed about 1000 homes, and the total damage was estimated at $1 Billion. I really feel for the people who died or whose homes burned, but the long-term effect on CA will be minimal. It will be years before LA and MS recover from Katrina. You will be in NOLA but try to visit Mississippi. Much of the MS coast still looks like Hiroshima after it was bombed with a nuclear weapon.





To use another comparison, about 200,000 buildings were destroyed in London (a much larger city) by German bombs %26amp; rockets during six years of war (1939 to 1945). Katrina did that to New Orleans in a morning.





Things won't be as physically difficult as you might fear as there has been huge progress in the past two years. You can drink the water, the electricity %26amp; phones work, services like the post office, hospitals, schools, police/fire/EMS are operating, and restaurants, stores %26amp; shopping centers are open.





Municipal services like street cleaning %26amp; trash collection collapsed after Katrina. Those services were fully restored in late 2006 and it is no longer an issue.





Regarding crime, New Orleans isn't even in the top 25 ';most dangerous American cities';: http://money.cnn.com/2006/10/30/real_est鈥?/a>





Just use the same common sense necessary in every major city in the world and there is little chance you will be a victim of anything except a need to visit the gym after you get home.





You don't say when you will be here. New Orleans has mild weather from late October to early May and the city stays green all year most years (rarely freezes and almost never snows). We pay for the mild winters with hot, humid summers. July and August can be especially brutal, so be careful working in the heat if you are here during that time.





You are welcome to write if you need more information.I'm going to build houses in New Orleans, any advice from people who have done this?
If you are coming before Feb dont bring any winter clothing .. none ..





you'll sweat your @ss off.








.. and thank you for the help
Thanks to you and your UU group for all you do while you are here. We truly appreciate it! Everything Barry said is true, and things are definitely better now, so you won't be getting the worst views of the devastation....but we still have a long way to go.


Check the weather reports for our area before you leave...we do get some cool weather (tonight its in the 40's and some areas will see freezing temps) but, overall our weather is milder than most of the country. Bring insect repellent and work gloves and clothes you don't mind retiring..thanks again!

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What advice can you give someone who is going to be a new grocery store cashier?

What kinds of things do you need to keep track of? Any advice on handling the cash and transactions? What about good lines to say to the customers when they come up with different problems and challenges for you? As much advice as you can give would be appreciated. I'm trying to prepare someone for the job who has not worked before. Thanks!What advice can you give someone who is going to be a new grocery store cashier?
It has been many years since I worked as a cashier in a grocery store. Be prepared for tough customers. Be friendly. Smile. Pay attention to their order. Be careful with their groceries. Pretend they are your own. Be considerate if you pack as well. Don't put too many heavy items in one bag.


Be careful when giving out change. Learn to count it out back to them. You will impress them because not many people do that nowadays. Ask your supervisor questions on situations you may encounter and how to handle them. If you a notice a bag of bread open, do you get it, does the customer, does someone else? I would ask questions like this so you are better prepared. Fast matters but you don't want to look less than smart.What advice can you give someone who is going to be a new grocery store cashier?
Patience Patience Patience, that's all you need. Because it will be tested.
First of all buy some really comfortable thick soled shoes because you will be standing in the same place for a very long time. Just say ';hello! How are you?'; to people. Some will want to talk a lot and some won't want to say anything. Always say have a nice day or have a nice night when they leave. When I was a cashier I thought it was easiest to get coupons from people at the end of their order. If they would give them to me at the beginning I would forget them. As far as handling cash just take your time if you have to, try not to short people of course. Its really not a hard job and its kind of cool to see what people buy. When I was a cashier I remember there was one guy that would try to scam the store by buying like just a candy bar with a 10 dollar bill and then after you shut your drawer he would say he gave you a 100 dollar bill. If you ever have something like this happen don't second guess yourself. I knew the guy gave me a ten and I told him I would call my manager and have her count the drawer, he didn't want to draw attention to himself since we were all aware of him and he was out of there before I picked up the phone. So, if you ever run into a problem like that just call a supervisor immediately. That is what they are there for.
Smile and be polite. Act like you enjoy your job and are happy to see the customer. Always remember you are there to serve the customer, not handle transactions. When a customer has a problem, shut up and listen--don't interrupt. Sometimes they just want to vent. When making change, give the coins back first, then the bills. Don't hand it all in a pile. If you make a mistake, own up to it and make it right.
Hi Joyce,


I am not good at handling cash transaction or any of the other issues, this is why I work from the comfort of my own home at the pace I want to,with out have to deal with cash, customer issues, products etc. I receive great training and support from my team in which I can not say I ever receive that in the last job I had for 16yrs. Honestly some on the job training for at least a week would be beneficial as people are likely to learn more that way . That will give them the ability to follow in the direction of others and duplicate what they do. This is why I enjoy working from home, with training I get to learn it in my own time and still achieve the goals I work for each day.


Best of luck


I can offer you more information about my job if you are interested.
Please enter every invoice. Honesty is the best policy.

Im new to san diego, and I need advice can you tell me the best nail salon and soul food restaurant?

Im looking for 3 places in the city of san diego.





Best nail salon as far as designs and pricing. who also does good eyebrow waxing. and lash extensions.





The best soul food restaurant and fish fry restaurant.





Thank you, please no rude or sarcastic comments.Im new to san diego, and I need advice can you tell me the best nail salon and soul food restaurant?
here is your answer to both





http://www.sandiegoreader.com/home/Im new to san diego, and I need advice can you tell me the best nail salon and soul food restaurant?
umm...Coco's(for the food) its in la jolla near the mall(accros the street from it)





and look in the mall or in the squar whaere coco's is
The city of San Diego covers a lot of land mass. You'll need to indicate what area you're in, to get an accurate answer.
Gaslamp
Check out this website.


http://www.blackdiego.com





When I lived there, I really loved to get sandwiches from the Salaam Fish House. I hope you enjoy it, too.

I'm looking for advice on new IT certifications, please recommend the next step!?

I am a Government employee making about 95k a year as an IT manager. I have the following certifications;





MCSE/2000


CCNA


Wirless#


CWNA


Network+


Security+


CISSP





Would be the next logical step? I really want to get out of management, and get back into doing the work.





Thank you!I'm looking for advice on new IT certifications, please recommend the next step!?
Cisco has tons of upper level degrees you can get, I'd suggest looking there first. Here's a link:





https://cisco.hosted.jivesoftware.com/in鈥?/a>

I'm tired of being a Pisces and have been for some time so I need to advice for a new beginning?

I just need new everything? New man, new job, more money, happiness, new activities. Any suggestions. Exreme Makeover Life Edition..heheI'm tired of being a Pisces and have been for some time so I need to advice for a new beginning?
While everyone has their ups and downs, you being a Pisces honestly have an advantage over every other sign in the zodiac. While many may refer to Pisces as the ';dust bin,'; they do this because the emotional and pessimistic nature of Pisces usually gets in the way of their talents. That is the problem with Pisces, we are a culmination of every sign in the zodiac, but with such dark emotion that we are our own worst enemies. What you need to do is master YOURSELF before you go searching for a NEW MAN. While this CAN help you, there are much higher chances that it will not.





When I say master yourself, I don't mean hit the gym and start reading a **** load of books. The path is unique to you, but the first step is believing in yourself.I'm tired of being a Pisces and have been for some time so I need to advice for a new beginning?
I have read there are two types of Pisces. My cousin is a Pisces and he tend to be the very hard working successful type. I would love to be him, I admire everything about him. He makes over $100,000 a year as an actuary and he graduated from college just a few years ago, he has lots of very important friends, he has a beautiful home with a lot of land, he had an SAT score of 1350 and has always been a genius at math, he is very confident about himself and he is very respected everywhere he goes. I would love to be that Pisces any day of the week.
sadly its a bad year for the fishys =/ seems like my bad year was 2006 so it should be comin around again shortly.





Write a list of what u dont like and exactly what u would like and how to go about changing it. Set goals and stick with them. Once you hit rock bottom in life theres no where to go but up. Make an idea of exactly what its going to take to be content. I say content because no ones happy all the time. Make realistic goals and changes and try every day to be better. Everything great comes with time, hard work and dedication. Try sticking those things out even if it suck it may pay off in the long run.
I love being a Pisces. I've studied my entire chart and made use of what I learned. You can look at it for indications of what career would be best for you (what is happening with your 10th and 6th houses); what would probably bring you lasting happiness in terms of wishes and hopes (the 11th house); what hobbies and amusements would interest you (the 5th house); what you look for and need in a partner (the 7th house, Moon, Venus, Mars); what is the path of least resistance for earning money (aspects to Jupiter and house placements); and so on.





There is much more than what I've suggested. There are several sites where you can have a free chart done so that you can get a feel for what all is going on other than your sun sign.





With that said... astrology shows directions. It all comes down to you.
I'm a Pisces boy. I have my good days, and I have my bad days. This happens pretty much because they way our luck changes feels too frequent. One day we're the Kings and Queens of the Planet, suddenly, we're the scum of the world. Life has it's ups and downs, but just be prepared for this. You'll find it eaier in some parts and hard on others. Just stay posted is all I'll say.
Well you have Transit Saturn opposing your natal Sun...





You may lack self-confidence. Difficulty deciding who you are. You're constantly in a battle with your insecurities. A lack of self-approval is usually present when the Sun and Saturn are opposition.
Sometime I hate being a Scorpio, I have the intense emotions that come with it but I'm trying to step above those negative energies that get the best of me and let my positive shine through.
Yes its not a really good year for Pisces ; but at the end of Oct ; things will start to get lot better for all Pisces
Life sucks for everybody who isn't stinking filthy rich... So don't worry about it. I'm a Pisces too and my life kinda sucks right now as well.

What advice would you give me in negotiating the price/financing for a new vehicle?

I want to stay under $20,000 and am interested in a small SUV.What advice would you give me in negotiating the price/financing for a new vehicle?
Contact 5 area dealers with the specifications for a vehicle you would buy.





You know: privacy windows, V6 3.2 or better, 24 miles per gallon highway, color, Et Cetra. List everything and be very specific.





Tell them they are bidding against these four dealers, a Toyota dealer a Chevy dealer, Et Cetra.





Tell them by what day you will buy the vehicle. I recommend buying on December 31, March 31, June 30, or September 30. These are the last day of the quarter and dealers want to meet their monthly and quarterly unit sales bonuses and the salesman want to meet his month and quarterly goals, they will deal more loosley with you on price and accessories on these days.





Wait fo them to bid. Some will, some won't, I suppose.





Be willing to wait for your price and walk away form any deal that isn't to your favor.





Remember they need to sell vehicles to stay in business. You don't have to buy.





On financing, get your financing before going to a dealer and tell them it is a cash purchase. Credit unions are good places for car financing.What advice would you give me in negotiating the price/financing for a new vehicle?
Always offer low, once you make an offer you cannot go down in price from then on. Look for a previous year model that dealers want to get rid of such as an 07 escape etc. Make sure to tell them your looking for the best ';out the door price'; which is tax, title, etc. And dont be afraid to shop around other dealears and tell them your shopping around to local competitors and will take the best deal. Also get pre approved before you go shopping so you know what you can afford and stick to it! if you need financing still try wells fargo auto finance. hsbc auto finance. capital one auto finance. or 5/3 bank or a local credit union..
A small SUV under $20,000 is not unreasonable IF it's used. If a new vehicle retails for $24,000 or more then I can guarantee the dealership will not be able to get you under $20,000 The markup in the vehicles is not as much as people think they are (I used to sell Chevy's, I know).





That being said, there IS wiggle room, and there are A LOT of techniques dealerships use to confuse you and trick you. Which is why I got out of the business. My conscience just wouldn't let me do it anymore.





If you want to negotiate for a car check out my site here: http://www.1-800badcredit.com. I have a newsletter you can sign up for (located in the car loans section) that will reveal all the tricks salesmen and managers use to confuse you and how to get the best deal.





One of the best things you can do is get pre-approved. Pre-approval gives you a fixed amount to work with and gives you the freedom to shop around for the best vehicle and the best price.





Good luck to you!
Biggest tip - be ready to WALK AWAY from the vehicle. Everyone tries to negotiate, but sellers know who is bluffing.





You give a price, and if they won't meet it or reasonably neg., Walk Out. There are too many dealers not to find another car.





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Ask the dealer if he has room to dip into the holdback, also ask if there is any dealer cash. A lot of dealers advertise an amount over invoice, and sometimes at invoice..but they have additional money called holdback that is profit beyond selling a vehicle over invoice. Also they might have what is called dealer cash, which is additional rebates that the dealership doesn't have to give to the consumer.
WALK OUT.





It鈥檚 amazing how many people aren鈥檛 willing to do this - either because of social conventions or because they don鈥檛 want to waste the time they鈥檝e already spent.





The single best negotiating tactic you have is to stand up and start leaving. Why? They鈥檒l be desperate to keep you on the lot, and as long as you鈥檙e not being completely unreasonable, they鈥檒l cave on something.





And if they don鈥檛? Who cares? What is the consequence to you of walking out? Absolutely nothing. The car dealer is not going to blacklist you.





You can walk right back in to the same dealership tomorrow and they鈥檒l start right back where you were. If they really can鈥檛 do your offer on the invoice and let you leave - then try another dealer in town with a slightly higher offer.





If that doesn鈥檛 work, go back to the first one with an even higher one. Start low and move up, because it can save you several thousand dollars.