Any advice for a new manager?

I am new to management and I am finding it very stressful. I am a smart person and a hardworker, just not used to all of the aspects to management like human resources and conflicts, I was friends with most of the people that I now manage but they respect me just fine. The bigger problem is the people I am now equal to do not respect me- at all. They tell on me if I make a mistake, and I have made a bigger problem, I have confided in a few of them and they betraded me. I feel I have made a mistake by accepting this position but I do not want to quit. Is there any way to fix this situation? I realize that I need to start acting more mature and less like a friend but I do not want to become a ';Stalin'; or anything.


P.S....The job is still getting done better than ever, I am just not used to being a head honcho.Any advice for a new manager?
First thing is relax. It takes time for people to get used to things. If you are producing, then they have no argument. And, be careful about saying anything that shows lack of confidence or frustration to your peers (and definitely those that report to you).





And to add to what chris said, Give credit to your subordinates when due, and be firm but fair when things are not being done as you state.Any advice for a new manager?
Here you go. #1 it's a job you have been hired to do. #2, If the people that hired you for the position didn't think you had what it took to do the job, well you wouldn't be asking this question. 3# Do the job as you are required to do and then some if needed, but use you're delegation skills as a manager and get you team proactively involved by giving them greater responsibility gradually, but don't overwhelm them. 4# Believe in yourself and your abilities. If you don't believe in yourself and lack self-confidience people will pick-up on that and exploit your weaknesses. 5# If you made a mistake, you don't have to broadcast it. Make haste and fix the problem as best as you can. If you need assistance, don't be afraid to ask for help from one of your subordinates that may be able to help you. 6# Don't be too hard on yourself. You weren't born a manager and didn't become one overnight. It will take time getting used to your new responsibilities and role -- Relax. 7# Don't micro manage you're people. Allow you're people to do their jobs, with minimal interference from you. This let's them know that you trust their abilities and that you are comfortable knowing that they are doing their jobs well. 8# Develop relationships that will help you grow, both with subordinates and other managers, I didn't say share every little detail of you're life with them or you're fears etc. That's what friends are for, outside of the job who have no connection whatsoever to you're job. 9# Find a mentor, someone that you'd like to learn from and who you'd think can show you overall how to be a better person (not manager) in the work place, as well as outside of the work place. 10# Last but not least (forgive me Lord, but you should be first on this list) PUT GOD FIRST!!!!!! By putting Him first in your life, no one or nothing can remove you from you're position. When enemies come against you, He will thwart their fiery darts and protect you. Cast all you're cares on Him, and you will have VICTORY IN EVERYTHING YOU DO!!! Trust me, this is a formula that works!!!!!
Take your time and do everything to the best of your ability..Once you get a system going then everything will fall into place..When you get some free time start your own personal chart..Once you show everyone that you are the boss and you have to be their friend also as long as the job is done right the first time then they should understand that you are not their enemy..You my have to get rid of some slackers..And don't take to heart on what they say..But listen to what they have to say..Take note but stand firm..
oh you poor thing.





truth.....it is stressful....i'm signed off with stress...


looking for another job or wanting to start up my own business.





i'll keep my fingers crossed for you - if you really like it, stick with it...otherwise, all the stress just isn't really worth it in the end.
Its tough to move up from the ranks. I do not envy you. Dont play favorites, and make sure the work gets done. Give people a pat on the back for doing good work, as you would give them a kick in the but for not doing well. And remember, there is always someone out to get you, from above, below and the sides.
As a manager trainer, this is an issue I see a lot. I think you have a good point in acting more mature. My suggestion for you would be to keep doing your best. If you were promoted, I can assure you that the other managers who are now your peers must have approved of the decision. I will never promote someone who does not have the respect of the current management. Try to see if their disrespectful acts could just be poor attempts to help you get better. I have a couple managers that work for me that can tend to be too tough on the other newer managers, but they do it because they are trying to call the new manager to a higher standard. My newer managers thought they were being unfair at first, but after having one-on-one talks with the older managers, they resolved their differences, and now get along much better.





I think the best advice is to be open with the other managers, and their bosses as well. Ask what you can specifically do to improve your performance. You may already be doing great, and this will just let the decision-makers know your are driven and reliable.





You will do well to appeal to your team members who are now your subordinates to do as you ask out of respect for you. I have had very close friends work for me, and work can complicate things if you don't separate work and social times. I would have to discipline a friend just as harshly as I would anyone else. If you do this based on their acts, not on emotions or feelings, then you will be able to strengthen your relationship outside of work.





Bottom line? Continue to work hard, be fair in decision-making and communicate with your bosses to find out what are the goals you should set for the business. I guarantee you that if you perform on a financial stand-point, and maintain the respect of the crew, the other managers will either respect you or look very bad to your bosses.





Don't lose heart! You can do it!
In today's world you are NOT a ';Manager';. You want to think and act like a:





LEADER,


COACH,


MOTIVATOR





Team members are the key to your success! You want to ';Empower'; your team while holding them accountable for their daily tasks, duties, goals, etc. That's the hardest part of being a ';Manager';. You can do it as you seem to be a good leader. You can read some good books on leadership. Like ';Good To Great!'; ';Leading For Growth!'; ';Inside The Magic Kingdom!'; ';The Servant Leader!'; ';The One Minute Manager'; ';The Change Monster!'; ';Follow This Path!'; Have a group meeting to air out any issues and support your team by helping them to achieve consistent success. Find out how each Team member likes to be rewarded? And go from there... GOOD LUCK! :-) From the Motivator
New managers bring new insights and new life to every company. And new managers (as well as old managers) can and will make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move on. If you want input on your progress, only ask your immediate supervisor. Perhaps your new position is already set up for 90-day reviews. Be proactive and ask for brief input every 30 days. Nothing fancy; nothing sinister. Maybe even a simple ';How am I doing, Boss?';





Remember that you do not have to please your co-managers, just your supervisor. Follow his/her strategies and tactics to achieve your objectives - weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly. And then work with your team to over-achieve for their benefit and the company's benefit.





And this may sound a bit old fashioned, but read an old book that is still one of the best management books ever written. Read, digest, and practice ';The One-Minute Manager.'; There is a terrific axiom in there that says ';Catch people doing something right.'; Let that become your #1 Rule of Management.





As for the respect of your co-managers -- Remember that respect is earned, not just given. Go earn their respect by being the very best manager you can be. You will do fine.
This is my opinion. It may help you in overcoming the trouble you have at work place.


Remember, '; WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH; THAN THE TOUGH WILL GET GO';


At this moment you need to be mentally very strong. Do not worry about others bad behavior towards you. It is going to be there, as long as you want it. This is the time you get the **** on your face, take it with proud and wash it up. Go back and do your work as usual. Think twice before you do any thing. This way you can avoid even repeating small mistakes. By avoiding mistake you are denying opportunity to those sick people. To gain some extra knowledge, if you have to spend extra time, Please do it. This will help you to be sharper and smarter than other. At the same time if any one does any mistake don't poke at them. Instead tell them to take it easy. Help every one if you can. This will help you to gain more friends in your work place. Some times if you get stressed, just walk away, go some where, stay alone, think positively about all the thinks happening around you. Further take it as a challenge. One day you will be able to win over every one in your work place including those bad guys. The bad guys won.t stop unless you force them to stop. The stopping is not going to happen over night, not by force. It will happen through you, with your smartness.


Be smart, Think that you can handle every one well ans be positive.





Good luck to you