Advice on how to build a new relationship with ex-spouse?

Hello all. We have a year old son together and are currently going through a divorce. Does anyone have any personal-experience advice on how to forge the path from a romantic relationship to a healthy, friendly parenting relationship during and after the divorce? I just want a good life for our son, which means that his father and I have to build a different, new relationship. I'm at a loss of where to start??


Thanks in advance!Advice on how to build a new relationship with ex-spouse?
There were reasons you got along well in the first place, and keep your mind on those. If you like movies, talk about movies. You know. Have a laugh. You can still do things between the three of you, go on picnics and such. Obviously, you want to be friendly and pleasant to each other. If you have to talk about ';difficult things'; do it when your son isn't around.





If you both want this, you can do it. Just be nice and friendly to each other, and remember that neither of you has the right to criticise the other anymore. This is what I and my ex-husband did, and we're really great friends to this day. We talk every day, but we'll never be romantic again.





Best of luck - everybody says we're the wierdest divorced couple they've ever met, but the world could use a lot more of this!Advice on how to build a new relationship with ex-spouse?
To do this right you have make sure the enviorment doesn't every lead him on to thinking that there could still be romance. Only invite him over in the day time to see your son so he doesn't end up spending the night. Never wear anything that he might see as a signal that you want him physically. You could also drop your son off at his place, that way its a quick enter and exit move. Have a close friend over when he comes over.





During the divorce try and make it known you don't want to hurt him, so don't try run off with his life savings. Stay in contact, be friendly
It has to be mutual desire to be friends not only you. It is good idea to keep your distance for a while. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, take a complete break from each other immediately after the breakup. That means no seeing each other, no phone calls, no e-mails, no Instant Messaging, and most importantly, no sex - not necessarily as a permanent measure (except where sex is concerned), but until you feel that you can converse with him like a normal person, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive). Also, if he tries to ask you to see him, make sure you question yourself of what good can come out of it. You don't want to relive the past by seeing him otherwise you'll get caught up by that moment and it will be hard to let go again.
This might not be the exact answer that you're looking for, but it just might be a good suggestion. The two of you have a young son together, right ? Have you considered trying to put your marriage back together ? You didn't say what caused the breakup, but I'm thinking it must not have been all that terrible, if you are wondering how to build a friendship type relationship with him. Your son might like it quite well, if Mom and Dad were to stay together. And of course I don't want to preach here, but what happened ? Did both of you forget all about your marriage vows ? Think about it, maybe keeping your family together isn't such a bad idea after all.
You sound like an awesome person thinking the way you are.


What you are trying to do is absolutely the right thing to try to do


Here are some suggestions


1. You need to forgive your ex and get rid of any personal baggage you have. the best reason for this is the freedom you will get without carrying the resentment


2. Take control and be the leader of the situation and choose not to be affected negatively. Not to lose your cool.


3. You need to keep your love tank filled (the feeling of being loved)...its not about sex nor males. LOL Friends can fill your love tank


There is a real good book that has all about ';how to fill your love tank'; get it or download the audio and read it ....The Five Love Languages by Garry Chapman. You will learn what you need to do to make you feel loved.